Soft kisses and gentle touches often does the trick together with a little rough sex from time to time. But really, being treated with respect and kindness as well as being with someone who's got a strong build that would make me salivate
Turn offs:
For me, any display lacking in fundamental respect, any hint of aggression or violent inclination, language that descends into vulgarity, and, most definitively, a character fundamentally devoid of integrity, serves as an immediate and profound deterrent to any form of deeper connection