I am attracted to soft, careful touch, natural caring, and the feeling of being around someone who is safe and easy to be with.
And most importantly, emotional sincerity. When I feel like I'm not being played a role, but really want to be there for you.
Turn offs:
I don't tolerate pressure, attempts to control or s***d things up.
Falsehood, manipulation, hidden aggression - it immediately makes me shut down.
Also - I don't like intrusiveness. If a person doesn't respect my boundaries, that's an instant red flag for me